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When Grieving shows up different than sadness

Hi Friends
We are talking ” grieving ” today, but first!! I want to send HUGE love to you! You, who is new to Design Thoughts Studio, and THANK YOU, to those of you who have been with me since the start when Design Thoughts, was a DIY blog written by a stay at home, interior designer mama, who lived in New York.
Over the course of the last year, we have all experienced so much change. Some good change that felt flowy and easy, and some hard change that felt abrasive and sudden, or even left us grieving and wondering how or why!
Because I am in it with you, I want to share a video from Christmas eve that I posted on my Facebook page. This was a day that my grief snuck up on me, and showed up like irritability, nagging and the ultimate block of CHAOS instead of love.

I want to share with you, an EFT/Tapping script that can help you move through how grieving might be showing up for you.  Use this tapping map to see the pressure points.

EFT-Tapping map

Karate Chop set up Statement x 3 ( start by calling out each feeling you are experiencing. is it irritability, fogginess, sadness, lethargic, dread)

” Even though I am feeling _____________, I deeply and completely love and accept myself” ( x3)

First round is the MPI ( Most Pressing Issue) – I suggest doing each emotion that comes up in a separate MPI round. Get it all out@

Eyebrow: “I am feeling so _______________ today”

Side of Eye: ” I am so tired of feeling this way”

Under Eye: All this _( fil in emotion) ________________

Under Nose: All this _( fil in emotion) ________________

Chin  :    All this _( fil in emotion) ________________

Collar Bone: All this _( fil in emotion) ________________

Under Arm: All this _( fil in emotion) ________________

Top of Head: All this _( fil in emotion) ________________


Eyebrow: “I am feeling so _______________ today”

Side of Eye: ” I am so tired of feeling this way”

Under Eye: All this _( fil in emotion) ________________

Under Nose: Why am I feeling this way today!

Chin  :    When I feel this way I also feel Anxiety and sadness, or anger and frustration

Collar Bone:  I am so sick of feeling this way

Under Arm: All this anxiety

Top of Head: All this sadness


ROUND Three:

Eyebrow: I am ready to look at my own stuff, and take the attention off others

Side of Eye: I am so tired of blaming others and others blaming me

Under Eye: I am ready to start getting back to who I am now.

Under Nose: this feel hard…who AM i now?

Chin  :    Who am I?

Collar Bone:  What do I need?

Under Arm: I am not use to asking what I need, this feels uncomfortable

Top of Head:I am willing to sit in discomfort



Eyebrow: Starting today, I am incorporating gentleness

Side of Eye: I am so tired of carrying the weight of this

Under Eye: I am ready to give “THIS” a Name  ( Take a minute to name what it is that you are carrying the weight of)

Under Nose: releasing the weight of this now

Chin  :    Releasing all this heaviness now

Collar Bone: I have been holding on so tightly, that its hard for me to release

Under Arm: but I will continue to try each day

Top of Head:because I am worth it.


Good!! how do you feel? what came up for you? Grieving is such a layered process, and EFT can help!!

I want to hear from you! where are you at in your process?



PS> join me for Feb. Session of EFT/Tapping though Grief and Loss 4 week course.( special pricing for my tribe) 


I’ll keep mine, and you keep yours: Energy

 Lets talk energy!
I’m not talking about light bulbs, I am talking about the streams of energy that each of us send out into the beautiful UNIVERSE!
When tended to, our energy can be one of the most amazing super powers we have! When we tune in, we can feel other people, we can allow ourselves to be guided by what feels right, and what doesn’t, and we can allow it to power us through some pretty amazing things!!

But what happens, if we dont tend to our energy? We can feel exhausted, drained. We often find ourselves completely effected by other peoples energy! If they have a bad day, we have a bad day. If they get triggered, we shut down. Sound familiar?

Most healers, light workers, and holistic practitioners, use energy protection rituals every single day with their clients. They use these rituals to protect, or hold onto their own energy, and to release or “give back” the energy that isn’t theirs. This is a super important practice for every day encounters too. Imagine each one of us with streams of energy, imprinted with only OUR stories, emotions and triggers, exuding from each of us!! Now, imagine being in a mall, or a grocery store, and each person you walk past, exuding the same amount of energy! THAT’S A LOT!! If we dont have practices in place, it can feel like an energy zap!

So, I am going to share a few things that I do to protect my own energy!

1. Solar Plexus cover– Your Solar plexus is your personal power Chakra. The access point is your belly button. Simply take your hand and cover your access point ( Belly button) when you are feeling triggered or overwhelmed in the presence of others.
2. Setting intention- Use your words! Prior to visiting with family that triggers you, going into meetings, grocery stores, malls, anywhere there are a lot of people, OR if you are a practitioner getting ready to meet with a client. Simply stating ” My energy stays with me, and his/her energy is to stay with them” will help to stop an energy drain!
3. Recharging-  Make a joy list. What brings you joy? when you are feeling depleted, refer to your list! On my joy list is getting into nature, creating, writing, quiet moments of reflection. I know this sounds a tiny bit cheesy, but trust me when I tell you that noe only do I use this, I have suggested this to MANY clients over the last 7 years, and they have also gotten great use out of it!
It always about awareness right?? SO where and when do you feel the biggest energy drain? Try a few of the ideas above, and see if they help!
Want more rituals and ways to protect your energy?   I offer a 1 hour zoom call with 5 energy protection rituals here!

Wanting MORE

Have you heard the whispers? the whispers that tell you, you are destined to share MORE of your divine gifts, serve MORE people? but you aren’t even sure HOW to determine what your divine gifts are? or maybe you know what you are meant for, but you are READY to unload old stories that aren’t serving you. Or maybe the voice tells you that you should be GRATEFUL for where you are now, who needs more?  I know this feeling well, and am SO excited to share the steps I took, to be able to know in my heart and in my bank account
( hollah) that I am doing what I am divinely meant to do.

Three years ago, when we moved from New York to Nashville, I was determined to create a life that I loved. A life that allowed me to be home with our son, A life that allowed me to do what I love while serving others, and making money! ( SO easy, right?! I say as I laugh) A life that let me work at coffee shops and drink out of real cups as I supported others!! see picture form THIS morning below. Why do real cups at a coffee shop bring me such joy? 🙂

Activate you

A few of those things happened at first. I was home with our son, I was doing what I loved, sort of, sometimes, while serving others. I had created a sisterhood circle, that FILLED me up. I started an Interior Design Business, and for a while I thought that was it. I loved Interior Design, ( I have over 17 yrs experience in it)  I supplemented the business side, with Sisterhood circle for the deep connection that I really craved and believed in.. the money was sporadic, but I didn’t care, I had FOUND my calling. I was on my passion path!

Then….I started to feel like something was missing….Like a big piece of what I was meant for, was still laying somewhere uncovered. I had a deep unwavering feeling that I was MEANT to show more of my gifts. I had NO idea how to do even more. I was lost…I questioned what I was missing?! and then the little voice that said, “Who do you think you are?”You have nothing more to share…be grateful for where you are!”

Does this resonate with you?

Well, I am here to tell you that I have done the work. I decided to open WAY up and and sit in the uncomfortable spaces that EXPLAINED why I didn’t feel I could connect to MORE. I sat through, worked through, TAPPED through ( EFT, not with my feet) the limiting beliefs that were holding me back. The fear that kept me from sharing with the world ALL parts that I was given to serve with ( hello Intuitive connection to the metaphysical). Once I REALLY did the work…I began to understand what it really means, to DO WHAT YOU LOVE, and be a part of the energy exchange that is so beautiful.  The exchange of our divine gifts, for the energy of money. sit with that last sentence for a second, ” The exchange of our divine gifts, for the energy of money” what does that bring up in you?

I want to share with you everything I used, to connect more fully to my divine gifts…IF you have read this, and even one little piece resonates with more to see how you can be a part of my small group.

Thank you for being here, I love you.